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How can counselling help?

Counselling can help you with any emotional problem you may be experiencing and any situation which is causing you distress'.

Counselling helps in two main ways. It provides a unique opportunity for people to speak in confidence with an objective person outside of their day-to-day environment, who can give his/her undivided attention to whatever is troubling them. Furthermore, counsellors are trained to be receptive to what is going on and to know when and how to ask the right questions. The combined experience of really being listened to, together with the gradual gaining of new insight into their difficulties, provides people with an opportunity to approach things in a different way.
Counselling does not involve giving direct advice as counsellors are trained to help you arrive at your own informed decisions and find your own answers. Furthermore, a counsellor cannot make you feel better, they can accept and support you in whatever you are feeling and help you move on. Ultimately, one of the aims of counselling is to help you become more fulfilled, either within yourself or in certain aspects of your life. It is co-operative process, in which both client and counsellor work together.

Counselling takes place when a counsellor sees a client in a private and confidential setting to explore a difficulty the client is having, distress they may be experiencing or perhaps their dissatisfaction with life, or loss of a sense of direction and purpose. It is always at the request of the client as no one can properly be 'sent' for counselling.

By listening attentively and patiently the counsellor can begin to perceive the difficulties from the client's point of view and can help them to see things more clearly, possibly from a different perspective. Counselling is a way of enabling choice or change or of reducing confusion.  It does not involve giving advice or directing a client to take a particular course of action. Counsellors do not judge or exploit their clients in any way.

In the counselling sessions the client can explore various aspects of their life and feelings, talking about them freely and openly in a way that is rarely possible with friends or family. Bottled up feelings such as anger, anxiety, grief and embarrassment can become very intense and counselling offers an opportunity to explore them, with the possibility of making them easier to understand. The counsellor will encourage the expression of feelings and as a result of their training will be able to accept and reflect the client's problems without becoming burdened by them.

Acceptance and respect for the client are essentials for a counsellor and, as the relationship develops, so too does trust between the counsellor and client, enabling the client to look at many aspects of their life, their relationships and themselves which they may not have considered or been able to face before. The counsellor may help the client to examine in detail the behavior or situations which are proving troublesome and to find an area where it would be possible to initiate some change as a start. The counsellor may help the client to look at the options open to them and help them to decide the best for them.

WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COUNSELLING AND TALKING TO A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER?

Friends are a gift; a good friend is worth their weight in gold.  However, friends often have a vested interest in us and may want our lives to turn out how they see fit.  A friend may be no doubt supportive and want what they think is best for us.  However, a counsellor will help us explore what we want for ourselves.  A good counsellor will help us find out what it is we want for our own lives.  With a counsellor we are able work through a problem and maybe tell them things we might not want to tell friends or family. When we want to end counselling we don’t need to see our counsellor again if we choose, which is perhaps different to a friend or relative. In other words your counsellor is a completely different part of your life and not somebody you have to live with or see everyday. This can be a very liberating experience and one that can help us to discover who we are and what we want.

The Purpose of Counselling and Psychotherapy

I aim to create a supportive atmosphere where clients can reflect on their concerns, achieve a greater understanding of their problems and make positive changes.  
Clients with more complex and enduring problems may require a deeper level of self-awareness and more help to create the resources and take the action that will enable them to live richer and more meaningful lives.

In the counselling sessions the client can explore various aspects of their life and feelings, talking about them freely and openly in a way that is rarely possible with friends or family. Bottled up feelings such as anger, anxiety, grief and embarrassment can become very intense and counselling offers an opportunity to explore them, with the possibility of making them easier to understand. The counsellor will encourage the expression of feelings and as a result of their training will be able to accept and reflect the client's problems without becoming burdened by them.

Acceptance and respect for the client are essentials for a counsellor and, as the relationship develops, so too does trust between the counsellor and client, enabling the client to look at many aspects of their life, their relationships and themselves which they may not have considered or been able to face before. The counsellor may help the client to examine in detail the behavior or situations which are proving troublesome and to find an area where it would be possible to initiate some change as a start. The counsellor can encourage the client to look at the options open to them and help them to make informed choices for themselves.